I met a very interesting peson on my bus ride to shimla. No, it wasn't a nice guy, my knight in shining armour, so please women stop jumping around in excitment!!! It was this nice looking girl who was standing alone next to the bus with a bag in he hand. I had reached the bus stoip at around 7.10 and was waiting for my luggage alongwith publications to turn up. People who have been part of HRLN or my life in HRLN would know what I mean when i say publications!! SO we both were standing next to each other and we got talking. She looked like she was just out of college or had just begun her career except for the tiny hint of mangalsutra that i could see peeping out of her jacket. So in the conversation I asked her her reason for travel as she asked me and she said that her husband was in Shimla... she had gotten married just the last month and after her chutti got over they both had to go back to their respective work places adn therefore she was in Delhi and he was in Shimla, posted in the Army. She travels like this every friday evening and reaches shimla Saturday morning, spends the weekend in shimla and takes a bus back to delhi on sunday night and reaches Monday morning. Luckily for her, her workplace is ok with her working in 12 to 9 shifts during the week till thursday and then on friday she works from 7 to 4 so that she can get eady for the bus journey.
I was just wondering, right now I get a little bit unhapppy with the fact that all the things Im doing right now are not going to be very long lasting and therefore I dont know if I want to invest all my energy in it, the solution that comes up in my mind is that once I settle in my personal life, which will most likely be a marriage (coz even if i dont like it, i am a bit traditional!!) then things will be fine. But looking at this weekend couple I was just wondering how it would be!! coz even though it was a arranged match, she sounded like she was quite fond of the guy and that so was he.... so it must be so frustating that you can't be with each other for the entire week and then to be with each other one has to travel to the other, so you dont have that feeling of being settled at home, where you have the weekend to put your life in order.... for example she said that even if she has to buy stuff for her home she does it in Shimla coz she does'nt have the time in Delhi!
I then realised that I do know a number of couples like this and although it gives me a sense of the changing mindsets quo women's professional careers, I dont really know if I would be ok being a weekend couple... what say you?
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